Friday, August 25, 2017

Ganesh Chathurthi Post

A new post..on Ganesh Chathurthi...
Past few days have been worst..terrible...such that I had lost the hope to live...
Today on this day after introspection I find whatever happened to me was because of my reactions to the situations..people won't change for me...neither do I have to change for people...only thing that can and should be changed is my reaction to situations and happenings around me...
Today on this day I promise myself not to be impulsive...not to react...especially to people who don't matter much...
Thank you Ganeshji for the lesson...
Wish you all a very Happy Ganesh Chathurthi..☺
P.S.: Reading Ham on Rye by Charles Bukowski.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Happened to come across this image the other day. Really how changed is life after social media has entered to this levels.
Facebook has come with 'n' options of updating what you are eating, thinking, reading, drinking, watching, feeling, making, celebrating, remembering, getting and what not....
Some combinations status which made write this post altogether......

1. XXXX is -- getting some fresh air 

2. XXXX is -- making connections 

3. XXXX is -- making noise (status by a 8 yr old kid)

4. XXXX is -- celebrating something

5. XXXX is -- looking at the sky

I happened to visit a cyber crime lecture wherein the lecturer told us an incident about how a girl from a high profile family always updated her status on a social networking site. Few notorious people with fake profile became her friends and kept following her profile. 
After a few days, she updated her status of a family trip to a hill station. Subsequently she kept on updating her status of the trip, when they left for the trip, what are they doing there, who is accompanying with them...These notorious people after getting all information robbed the house..and they made it big.
When the case was investigated it came to light that root cause of this incident was her updates which let them know about whereabouts of the family. This is the level at which social media has harmed our lives. Its high time that we do not make our private life, public. 

A note to end this post: read more, travel, work, love, make friends, and don't update this on social media. :P

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

To be or not to be...Visas questioned?

I have never aspired to go abroad and study or work...I don't know why it didn't appeal me or may be my family background was not such that they would encourage me to go abroad and study and settle down there...And it so happened that I stepped into NON-IT education streams and the chances lowered down...I don't have any plus or minus feelings about the same...

However today I went through a post which talked about H4 dependent visas and H1B visas of their spouses. Married women talked about how they worked while they were in  India and talked about how talented they were, and how they have rich experience of working especially in IT companies and how they are dependent on their spouse since they are married and went to The US to settle with their spouse. They talked how difficult it is in The US to survive with one earning person in the family. Many women said that they are getting treated for depression as they no longer feel they have a life, and have to ask their spouse for every little need of theirs to be fulfilled.

Women need to think twice before they marry someone who is working with H1B visa. They need to be aware that they will be getting a dependent visa. They cannot earn, own or even open a bank account without their husband permits to do so. They need to understand that their role there will be only to cook, raise kids and be a good homemaker. All this needs to be understood before they marry and go off...You don't get a chance to regret it later. And if you are comfortable with everything that comes 'free' with H4 visa: aunties in India will say arre Sharma ji ki beti US mein settle hai, friends will envy all your profile pics on FB and whatsapp where you will flaunt snowfall or parks, and ofcourse parents will feel proud ki humari beti ko humne engineer banaya aur dhumdham se shadi kar di...then the choice is yours.

P.S.: The views expressed here are solely in authors capacity and do not relate/represent any individual/entity/content available online/offline. 

Monday, October 3, 2016

Reappearance!!!

I lost her ...I lost her after 11 years of battle with dementia...

She brought me to this world...She taught me...to walk, to eat, to read, to play...She taught me how to live...how to love...to love fellow human beings, pets, books, everything around me..be satisfied with what I have...to be at peace with myself...Everything ...She is my God...My holy book...
It has been very difficult for me to cope up with everything after her...

At work front I'm still of view that a person like me should not be working in PSU bank as an officer. Either I'm too competent to handle it or not at all...Anyways that I'll write up in another post in detail.

I have taken up a challenge to be away from my smartphone for maximum time i.e. I don't use it in office anymore. I use it to minimum i.e. only to have a talk with my family once a day. Since then it has helped me a lot I have decided to continue it. It has helped me build concentration and focus specially in reading.

Yes, I have started reading. To make it an easy start I  started it with a chicklit......:P ..tada...Confessions of a shopaholic. Actually I have decided to re-read all the books I have read  earlier. Now that I have finished the reading that, I have picked The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell and almost halfway.

Festival seasons are on...and so are online shopping sites...and to be honest they don't catch my attention any more...They seem to be nothing but splurge machines...I believe to keep it small and simple..Yeah Yeah I'm not going to be spoil sport to all those love shopping online...You guys carry on...

Wish all you beautiful people a very Happy Navratri..C..Ya...

Thought to munch: MY GOAL IS NOT TO BE BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE, BUT TO BE BETTER THAN I USED TO BE ------------------------------Dr. Wayne W. Dyer


Monday, December 7, 2015

Come back!!!

It has been more than a year that I have met you, dear blog. You know life has changed so much. Everyday seems to be so different than yesterday yet monotonous. Sometime it such a slow day, and sometimes time just flies away....

2015 started and has come to an end. The most beautiful and lucky year for me. Completed one more year in my job, got married, got transferred, bought my first car, had wonderful short vacations. All seems to be so good, rather it is good.

Reading task ki gaddi...slow chal rahi hai :( New resolutions in pipeline...:P few more days for the new year folks. Enjoy the few days of 2015. Will meet you soon with new look and updates...Love you dear blog...

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Lets play it!!


I have grown up as small town girl...My childhood was like any other kid…where I  was  happiest when I got new books when the school reopened…Bread and jam was a luxury and cadbury chocolates remained unfulfilled wishes..A pencil of a rupee was sufficient to boast amongst friends and the best holiday was to grandma’s place. We, my friends and I, rarely got video games to play and internet to pass our time…Outdoor games remained favorites then…We used to play dodge the ball, hide and seek,  blind fold games and treasure hunt.

Today I realize, life is not different than the games I played while I was young…
There was a game called dodge the ball…the players stand around a circle…one of the player stands in the circle…other players throw the ball towards the player who stands in the circle and he tries not getting hit by the ball and not getting 'out' of the game…Do we play dodge the ball with life everyday. Yes I do .…some situations throw the problems/difficulties towards me…I try not to get ‘out’ with that problem…I play hide and seek…its my life’s favourite game…not mine…It hides…I seek…every time I try to find it…it finds such a hideout that I cannot find it…and atlast if I find it…it finds a better hideout…and everytime…it wins and I lose…it laughs at me like a small kid and I keeping staring at it..helpless…it blindfolds me every day…just to unfold it in such a way that it teaches me there is more to come…good and bad…best and worse…happy and sad…

Then comes my favorite game…treasure hunt…tired of all the games…this is the game which gives me hope, which fills me with energy and zeal to get  up and play…coz I know after all the weary day what I’m going to get at the end,  is the treasure , ‘ happiness, satisfaction and joy’  and I will say to myself, "All is well that ends well".

Monday, August 18, 2014

OXYGEN


Oxygen…aha we studied that it was some element essential for all living beings...what it has to do with my blog title...Oxygen! what does it cost? We do not know…I mean we never had to buy it...And we are humans,  right?  We do not value what we get in free…

Same is the case of Freedom/Independence…We are free…We are not deprived of it…so we have not known its value…Salute to all those people who bore  heavy cost to give us that in legacy…

So now it has been 2 days after the Independence day, all the ‘social networking patriots’ are asleep after loading the web with likes, shares, tweets …let us think what do we do to value our independence…

We are all lucky that we are not made to freeze at -2 degree Celsius in Ladakh or suffer 50 degree Celsius at Rajasthan border. We are those lucky people who have our life with more than what we call as  'needs'...

Can we do some small things to pay back to our motherland and her great martyrs. We are not expected to go at the border and fight, some minuscule things and we can pay back a bit of that…something that we can do every day without spending much time, energy and money

1)      Save water. Use water judiciously. We import crude oil.. Lord Help, we do not want our younger      generations to import water.  Spread the message to save water.
2)      Save electricity. The sun sets and we want the world to look beautiful for all 24 hours.
3)      Plant trees. And more important conserve them. One tree in a life of 60 years. Difficult??
4)      Make efforts to educate one person you know who is deprived of it. Who knows, he/she will educate 100 others.
5)      If each one of us decides to keep our surrounding clean, we could compete with the South East nation who claims to be one of the cleanest nation in the world.  We do not need to go and sweep the roads. All that we need to do is avoid littering on roads, trains and public places…Put the wrappers, empty food packets into dustbins..make efforts to segregate the garbage at our home into dry wastes and wet wastes. That will help in recycling
6)      Make minimum use of plastic. Carry paper/cloth bags for purchases. Take along with you bags even when you go to the mall. You will surely help to save the environment.
7)      Inculcate the value of honesty, transparency and responsibility at work and home. That will help us be a good human being
8)      Treat all individuals with respect and love especially parents. It will be a great country where old age homes will be closed (happily).…

These are simple things that I can think of,  at this moment …There are many things that can be thought of and followed…Define your own way of giving back…but the essence is we all need to give back in our own good way
And what will be the results…they will add a meaning to our life..something we can preserve till the end…something that we will have to pass on to generations to come…

"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give"